DEAR ABBY: Wouldn’t it be improper to inform my ex-husband’s girlfriend (who he left me for) that he still tells me he loves me and may’t move on due to me? He says it regardless of how repeatedly I even have told him I don’t ever want him back. He has also said he doesn’t plan to remarry, despite the indisputable fact that she desires to get married and is being led to consider he loves her and needs to marry her. (I even have the text messages to prove it.)
I don’t want her to be hurt like I used to be. She moved away from her family to be with him. She has no family here, but she has an incredible job, and he’s just using her for her money. I do know I shouldn’t care, but I believe she should understand how he feels. I hate that he’s lying to her and using her. Should I send her the texts I even have or leave well enough alone? — WANTS TO WARN IN THE SOUTH
DEAR WANTS: You’ll be able to attempt to warn this woman by sharing the texts your ex has sent to you. You most likely won’t be believed should you do, but no less than your conscience can be clear, and you may go on along with your life. May I make yet another suggestion? Block him in your devices. Your ex may be very bad news.
DEAR ABBY: I married a widower eight years ago, and we’re very comfortable. Nevertheless, his three grown daughters were indignant that he moved on along with his life after the death of their mother. To maintain peace within the family, I even have tried to “kill them with kindness,” and while we’ve made progress, I feel they benefit from me and sometimes treat me with disrespect.
Although we don’t swim often, we go to the expense of opening our pool every summer so the kids and grandchildren can swim. Ceaselessly after I check the pool after they leave, I find my pool floats have been damaged or destroyed. All three of his daughters are very large women. Not once have they mentioned that they damaged the floats or offered to exchange them.
I purchased a recent chair for my deck recently and noticed that it has a weight limit of 250 kilos. At the very least two of his daughters — perhaps all three — exceed the load limit. I’m considering selling the chair because I’m afraid someone will get hurt. Is there a option to allow them to know they shouldn’t check out my recent chair without it turning into an ungainly situation? — POOL PROTECTOR
DEAR POOL PROTECTOR: Unless you must be perceived because the “wicked stepmother,” your husband should handle this delicate subject. HE should indicate to his daughters that in the event that they or their children break something, he expects them to inform the 2 of you about it. If it happens repeatedly, they need to either replace the item or bring one among their very own.
Because you might be concerned his daughters will break the chair, consider buying foam mats they and their kids can cover with beach towels and use after they are on the patio. Furniture you are not looking for them to make use of shouldn’t be made available to them.
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