Some say her boyfriend’s got a nasty altitude.
A girl, 33, posted on Reddit’s “Am I The A-shole” subreddit to gauge opinions about whether or not it’s okay if she and her boyfriend of 5 years sit in business class while her 13-year-old son sits alone in coach — and commenters were mixed.
The mom explained that the flight could be nine hours long, and though her boyfriend, 40, makes significantly more cash than her, they split the holiday costs in addition to her son’s expenses equally.
“The issue is he doesn’t need to let my child on to the identical class on the plane as us. He thinks that my child needs to be grateful to be getting a global trip and just enjoy the flicks and whatever other amenities there are on the flight,” she wrote within the post.
She also added that “they’ll pop up and visit us each time in business class and that it’s not definitely worth the extra cost, even when he were a millionaire.”
The mom said she finds it “weird” to sit down aside from her child even when he’s “comfortable enough.”
“I’d probably prefer to downgrade my flight if [my boyfriend] is unwilling to separate that specific cost. He thinks I’m being weird for wanting to make that concession and it’s not a giant deal for [a] child to fly alone,” she explained.
“So, [was I being the a-shole] or am I being a helicopter and stressing over something silly?” the mom asked before sharing her boyfriend’s reasoning.
“He has a view where children may not appreciate the worth of business class and that his parents went on business class while he flew economy on his own,” she said of her boyfriend.
“He absolutely desires to benefit from the business class for himself for the long haul on a pleasant plane. He’s effective with me sitting in economy also or bumping up my child at my very own cost, though he disagrees morally and thinks I’m being sort of silly, he would accept it,” she added.
She assured Redditors that her partner spends time along with her son often and has spent loads of resources on “birthdays, events and milestones” and that they’ve had “only a few upsets.”
“Every so often I’ve needed to stick up for one or the opposite but I feel like that’s to be expected with blended families,” she wrote.
Redditors flocked to the comments to specific their disdain for the boyfriend.
“I’m positive I couldn’t be with someone who didn’t adore my cats, never mind someone who actively disliked my children,” one wrote.
“It’s totally twiddling with fire. All they should do is read a few of the recent Reddit posts where the mother ended up married to someone who didn’t want kids and dumped the kid off with dad, or the mother got sick, etc. It’s a failure on the a part of the parent as well. If you’ve gotten a toddler, you’re putting that child’s well-being in danger by getting involved with someone who doesn’t need to be around them,” said one other.
“I see you’ve gone back in time and met all of my mother’s boyfriends. The cruelty was a feature not a bug. She loved it. This mother knows rattling well how s – – t that is or she wouldn’t be questioning this,” wrote a 3rd.
Others didn’t see the problems with sitting individually.
“No way in hell would my parents have ever paid for us to fly business class. Once on a visit when my brother and I were each middle grade, but I definitely wasn’t 13, my dad got upgraded while flying [with] just us to England and he LEAPT to the front of the plane. But I’m Gen X and that was so standard,” someone wrote.
“I can’t imagine sitting aside from my kids now, but they’re 9 and seven. After they’re teenagers? I feel I’d ditch them for a free upgrade too. (Depending on how they feel about it, obvi. Undecided my older son would feel okay),” she added.
“Don’t be silly … a parent who flies business while their kids fly economy is hardly ‘s – – t.’ What a dumb position to take,” said one other.
“He’s a young person not a bit of kid. He’s going to have his earbuds in and snooze the entire time anyway. I agree that the associated fee of the business class experience could be wasted on him. Plus, when you fly top notch, it’s real hard to cram yourself into the back of the plane in the long run. Perhaps that’s something you’re employed as much as if you get a job and might pay for it yourself,” wrote a 3rd.