DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend, “Eli,” and I purchased an exquisite white Labrador puppy, “Sasha,” two years ago. I live with him and my future father-in-law, “Harry,” at his father’s house. Eli’s father is essentially a man-child. Harry feeds Sasha table scraps, and regardless that we’ve got asked him to stop, he doesn’t. He laughs and says the food won’t hurt her. I feel he’s being very disrespectful.
The additional food is making Sasha gain weight. We’re frightened about her health, but Harry doesn’t care. We don’t find the money for to maneuver out yet. Harry is home quite a bit in the course of the day when my boyfriend and I are working. We pay all of Sasha’s vet and food bills. I’m unsure what to do about this. I might appreciate any advice you possibly can give me. — PET PROJECT IN NEW YORK
DEAR PET PROJECT: If possible, start asking friends or relatives in the event that they could be willing to have Sasha stick with them in the course of the day whilst you and Eli are working. Obesity isn’t healthy for canines or humans, and no matter Harry’s motivation, he mustn’t be stuffing your puppy after you may have asked him to not.
DEAR ABBY: I’m in a relationship with someone younger. I’m 17, and he’s 15. After I first met him, I used to be told he was a junior. We were close friends and have been through a lot together, good and bad, and we’ve now been in a six-month relationship.
We don’t have bad intentions because we’re waiting for marriage before having sex. I actually have struggled with depression and anxiety, but he makes me happier than I actually have ever been. He’s the person I actually have been asking God for. He treats me like a princess. I actually have little doubt in my mind that he may very well be The One.
The issue is, his parents don’t just like the age difference. My parents don’t have an issue with it because their age gap is identical. Also they are very strict, and they’re going to agree provided that his parents agree. His parents have an even bigger age gap but still are iffy about us. What I don’t understand is why I can’t be comfortable with him without our parents pondering we’re going to have sex without desirous about consequences.
After we are together, we forget in regards to the age gap. How do I make our parents understand? Must we break up for the sake of our parents after I could fall into one other depression? I don’t wish to return to where I used to be. I can’t lose him. Please help. — HAPPY GIRL NOW
DEAR GIRL: You don’t must lose this boyfriend, but you could have to postpone him. Within the meantime, it’s necessary that you just receive help on your depression and anxiety since it’s unfair to your boyfriend to make your happiness his responsibility. Your happiness mustn’t be depending on one other person.
In case your parents are unaware of your mental health struggles, tell them in order that they can assist you in getting skilled help if obligatory. If they can not try this, speak about it with a counselor at your school.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also generally known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend, “Eli,” and I purchased an exquisite white Labrador puppy, “Sasha,” two years ago. I live with him and my future father-in-law, “Harry,” at his father’s house. Eli’s father is essentially a man-child. Harry feeds Sasha table scraps, and regardless that we’ve got asked him to stop, he doesn’t. He laughs and says the food won’t hurt her. I feel he’s being very disrespectful.
The additional food is making Sasha gain weight. We’re frightened about her health, but Harry doesn’t care. We don’t find the money for to maneuver out yet. Harry is home quite a bit in the course of the day when my boyfriend and I are working. We pay all of Sasha’s vet and food bills. I’m unsure what to do about this. I might appreciate any advice you possibly can give me. — PET PROJECT IN NEW YORK
DEAR PET PROJECT: If possible, start asking friends or relatives in the event that they could be willing to have Sasha stick with them in the course of the day whilst you and Eli are working. Obesity isn’t healthy for canines or humans, and no matter Harry’s motivation, he mustn’t be stuffing your puppy after you may have asked him to not.
DEAR ABBY: I’m in a relationship with someone younger. I’m 17, and he’s 15. After I first met him, I used to be told he was a junior. We were close friends and have been through a lot together, good and bad, and we’ve now been in a six-month relationship.
We don’t have bad intentions because we’re waiting for marriage before having sex. I actually have struggled with depression and anxiety, but he makes me happier than I actually have ever been. He’s the person I actually have been asking God for. He treats me like a princess. I actually have little doubt in my mind that he may very well be The One.
The issue is, his parents don’t just like the age difference. My parents don’t have an issue with it because their age gap is identical. Also they are very strict, and they’re going to agree provided that his parents agree. His parents have an even bigger age gap but still are iffy about us. What I don’t understand is why I can’t be comfortable with him without our parents pondering we’re going to have sex without desirous about consequences.
After we are together, we forget in regards to the age gap. How do I make our parents understand? Must we break up for the sake of our parents after I could fall into one other depression? I don’t wish to return to where I used to be. I can’t lose him. Please help. — HAPPY GIRL NOW
DEAR GIRL: You don’t must lose this boyfriend, but you could have to postpone him. Within the meantime, it’s necessary that you just receive help on your depression and anxiety since it’s unfair to your boyfriend to make your happiness his responsibility. Your happiness mustn’t be depending on one other person.
In case your parents are unaware of your mental health struggles, tell them in order that they can assist you in getting skilled help if obligatory. If they can not try this, speak about it with a counselor at your school.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also generally known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
