A private drama has gone viral online as a young woman reached out to others for assist in navigating her sticky travel situation.
After an incredible deal of backwards and forwards, she said she’s now “refusing to assist my boyfriend’s dying mother while planning a visit to Europe” — and wondered what others thought.
Fox News Digital reached out to a clinical psychologist for insight as people on Reddit weighed in on the drama.
Describing herself as 25 years old, the lady said she lives along with her boyfriend — and a few month ago, his mom “began claiming she’s dying of cancer, but no diagnosis has been confirmed. Every hospital visit ends along with her being sent home. A nurse even [said] she is likely to be faking,” the lady wrote.
The mother asked to “stay one night” on the couple’s small apartment, which “become every week of chaos,” said the young woman.
“The apartment smelled awful, all the things needed to be dark and silent, and she or he consistently demanded help,” the lady wrote.
Then the mother “suggested we move in along with her, an hour from our jobs/school.”
The young woman said she’s a full-time student currently holding two jobs, and she or he began “falling behind.”
Her boyfriend modified his full-time job to a completely distant position so he could take care of his mother, the young woman added.
The health updates “were at all times shifting,” nonetheless, she said. “MRI, canceled surgery, then chemo postponed resulting from infection, then E. coli. All the time a brand new reason. No clear diagnosis or paperwork,” she continued.
The young woman then described a scenario by which “we were speculated to take her to the ER … but we ended up staying 16 hours [at the mother’s home] doing chores. I folded 420 clothing items, cleaned the entire house, and felt like her unpaid maid. Not a single please or thanks.”
She went on, “She was stalling to go to the ER, and once we finally got there at 5 a.m., she said she’d check herself in and sent us home. Three hours later, she called again, sobbing for help. She had been rejected by the ER.”
Wrote the lady, “I think she faked it.”
The young woman said she and her boyfriend had been “skipping meals, losing sleep and falling behind at work to assist her.”
To further complicate things, the mother’s boyfriend, an apparent alcoholic, began sending the young couple “aggressive texts” — then “later apologized,” in keeping with the thread.
The mother then “called again begging for help. But this time, she wanted me … I needed that weekend to review for final exams. And going to that house alone seemed sketchy.”
The young woman said she’s now planning a “Europe trip to see my mom, whom I haven’t seen in over a yr.”
While the boyfriend said he supports her trip of several weeks, he also told her she was being “somewhat selfish,” the lady wrote.
The boyfriend apparently asked her, “If I were dying, would you quit your job to be with me?” and “If it were your mom, would you help her?”
The lady said she “felt pressured to say yes. But truth is, my family wouldn’t deceive me or use me like this.”
The lady concluded that she “loves” her boyfriend and desires “to be there for him. But I don’t trust his mom, and that is beginning to affect our relationship.”
She then wondered if she was flawed for “going home to Europe.”
Some 5,000 people have reacted to the non-public situation so far — with the overwhelming majority siding with the stressed young woman.
Wrote a top commenter, “I do know you like your boyfriend, but you have to ask yourself for those who’re willing to provide up your personal life for him and his mom, since it’s never going to stop. It could stop if he chooses to set boundaries, however it doesn’t sound like he’ll do this.”
Wrote one other person, “Break up. Move out. Go on vacation. Stop coping with crazy mom and [boyfriend].”
Said yet one more individual, “Why is his family more necessary than yours? I’d tell him that he should move her to assisted living or an apartment and hire help. Let him know that while you like him, you usually are not lighting your future on fire to assist someone who won’t help themselves.”
And yet one more person wrote, “Stay in Europe could be my advice. Sounds exhausting.”
Said one other commenter, “Run! Escape!”
A private drama has gone viral online as a young woman reached out to others for assist in navigating her sticky travel situation.
After an incredible deal of backwards and forwards, she said she’s now “refusing to assist my boyfriend’s dying mother while planning a visit to Europe” — and wondered what others thought.
Fox News Digital reached out to a clinical psychologist for insight as people on Reddit weighed in on the drama.
Describing herself as 25 years old, the lady said she lives along with her boyfriend — and a few month ago, his mom “began claiming she’s dying of cancer, but no diagnosis has been confirmed. Every hospital visit ends along with her being sent home. A nurse even [said] she is likely to be faking,” the lady wrote.
The mother asked to “stay one night” on the couple’s small apartment, which “become every week of chaos,” said the young woman.
“The apartment smelled awful, all the things needed to be dark and silent, and she or he consistently demanded help,” the lady wrote.
Then the mother “suggested we move in along with her, an hour from our jobs/school.”
The young woman said she’s a full-time student currently holding two jobs, and she or he began “falling behind.”
Her boyfriend modified his full-time job to a completely distant position so he could take care of his mother, the young woman added.
The health updates “were at all times shifting,” nonetheless, she said. “MRI, canceled surgery, then chemo postponed resulting from infection, then E. coli. All the time a brand new reason. No clear diagnosis or paperwork,” she continued.
The young woman then described a scenario by which “we were speculated to take her to the ER … but we ended up staying 16 hours [at the mother’s home] doing chores. I folded 420 clothing items, cleaned the entire house, and felt like her unpaid maid. Not a single please or thanks.”
She went on, “She was stalling to go to the ER, and once we finally got there at 5 a.m., she said she’d check herself in and sent us home. Three hours later, she called again, sobbing for help. She had been rejected by the ER.”
Wrote the lady, “I think she faked it.”
The young woman said she and her boyfriend had been “skipping meals, losing sleep and falling behind at work to assist her.”
To further complicate things, the mother’s boyfriend, an apparent alcoholic, began sending the young couple “aggressive texts” — then “later apologized,” in keeping with the thread.
The mother then “called again begging for help. But this time, she wanted me … I needed that weekend to review for final exams. And going to that house alone seemed sketchy.”
The young woman said she’s now planning a “Europe trip to see my mom, whom I haven’t seen in over a yr.”
While the boyfriend said he supports her trip of several weeks, he also told her she was being “somewhat selfish,” the lady wrote.
The boyfriend apparently asked her, “If I were dying, would you quit your job to be with me?” and “If it were your mom, would you help her?”
The lady said she “felt pressured to say yes. But truth is, my family wouldn’t deceive me or use me like this.”
The lady concluded that she “loves” her boyfriend and desires “to be there for him. But I don’t trust his mom, and that is beginning to affect our relationship.”
She then wondered if she was flawed for “going home to Europe.”
Some 5,000 people have reacted to the non-public situation so far — with the overwhelming majority siding with the stressed young woman.
Wrote a top commenter, “I do know you like your boyfriend, but you have to ask yourself for those who’re willing to provide up your personal life for him and his mom, since it’s never going to stop. It could stop if he chooses to set boundaries, however it doesn’t sound like he’ll do this.”
Wrote one other person, “Break up. Move out. Go on vacation. Stop coping with crazy mom and [boyfriend].”
Said yet one more individual, “Why is his family more necessary than yours? I’d tell him that he should move her to assisted living or an apartment and hire help. Let him know that while you like him, you usually are not lighting your future on fire to assist someone who won’t help themselves.”
And yet one more person wrote, “Stay in Europe could be my advice. Sounds exhausting.”
Said one other commenter, “Run! Escape!”
