DEAR ABBY: I actually have a neighbor I actually love. I garden; she doesn’t. Despite my asking her two years ago to not take any of my asparagus, yesterday she mentioned in conversation, “I like your asparagus. Sometimes I pick some for myself.”
Abby, last yr I used to be left with merely enough for one meal for myself! How can I say to her, “Stop raiding my food source!”? I continue to exist a limited budget. Again and again, I can’t afford to purchase vegetables, which she is aware of. I’m very hurt by her behavior. Thanks for any insight you may give. — OUT OF THE GARDEN IN PENNSYLVANIA
DEAR OUT: Sit your light-fingered neighbor down and remind her of some facts of your life. Tell her again that you simply are on a limited budget and grow vegetables because they’ve grow to be too expensive so that you can buy. Also remind her that you may have asked her before to not do what she has been doing, and tell her how hurt you’re that she would steal from you. It’s the reality, and he or she needs to listen to it. She ought to be ashamed of herself.
DEAR ABBY: I recently scheduled a last-minute consultation with my doctor that may end in surgery. My husband has a gathering during that point, which isn’t actually vital, but he feels he must attend. I feel he is selecting a non-urgent obligation over my more immediate concerns.
All that said, I’m able to handling what comes my way by myself. I used to be just hoping for some emotional support from my spouse of 31 years. I actually have had loads of that financially, but not emotionally. I’m attempting to determine why he’s not taking my medical issue as seriously as I’m. — ON MY OWN IN WASHINGTON
DEAR O.M.O.: What a tragic letter. After 31 years, you might have to just accept that financial support is all of your husband is able to giving. Because you wish emotional support, consider asking an in depth friend or relative to remain close when you resolve your medical issue. Even though it might not be your first selection, it could be the more practical solution.
DEAR ABBY: My father left my older sister and me out of his will. He inherited money, went to an Ivy League university and raised two sets of stepkids. I do know he didn’t have lots left at the top, but what there was went to his third wife.
We had hoped he would help his granddaughters with cars, etc. I wish we had discussed it beforehand so it wouldn’t have spoiled our larger-than-life memories of him. Are we selfish to feel let down? — STILL MISSING DAD IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR STILL MISSING: Your feelings are your feelings. In case your father led you to imagine your kids were in his will, then those feelings are justified. Nevertheless, if he didn’t do this, you’re incorrect to have expected him to purchase “cars, etc.” on your children. Considering his marital history, his widow may have every penny he left her.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also often called Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
DEAR ABBY: I actually have a neighbor I actually love. I garden; she doesn’t. Despite my asking her two years ago to not take any of my asparagus, yesterday she mentioned in conversation, “I like your asparagus. Sometimes I pick some for myself.”
Abby, last yr I used to be left with merely enough for one meal for myself! How can I say to her, “Stop raiding my food source!”? I continue to exist a limited budget. Again and again, I can’t afford to purchase vegetables, which she is aware of. I’m very hurt by her behavior. Thanks for any insight you may give. — OUT OF THE GARDEN IN PENNSYLVANIA
DEAR OUT: Sit your light-fingered neighbor down and remind her of some facts of your life. Tell her again that you simply are on a limited budget and grow vegetables because they’ve grow to be too expensive so that you can buy. Also remind her that you may have asked her before to not do what she has been doing, and tell her how hurt you’re that she would steal from you. It’s the reality, and he or she needs to listen to it. She ought to be ashamed of herself.
DEAR ABBY: I recently scheduled a last-minute consultation with my doctor that may end in surgery. My husband has a gathering during that point, which isn’t actually vital, but he feels he must attend. I feel he is selecting a non-urgent obligation over my more immediate concerns.
All that said, I’m able to handling what comes my way by myself. I used to be just hoping for some emotional support from my spouse of 31 years. I actually have had loads of that financially, but not emotionally. I’m attempting to determine why he’s not taking my medical issue as seriously as I’m. — ON MY OWN IN WASHINGTON
DEAR O.M.O.: What a tragic letter. After 31 years, you might have to just accept that financial support is all of your husband is able to giving. Because you wish emotional support, consider asking an in depth friend or relative to remain close when you resolve your medical issue. Even though it might not be your first selection, it could be the more practical solution.
DEAR ABBY: My father left my older sister and me out of his will. He inherited money, went to an Ivy League university and raised two sets of stepkids. I do know he didn’t have lots left at the top, but what there was went to his third wife.
We had hoped he would help his granddaughters with cars, etc. I wish we had discussed it beforehand so it wouldn’t have spoiled our larger-than-life memories of him. Are we selfish to feel let down? — STILL MISSING DAD IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR STILL MISSING: Your feelings are your feelings. In case your father led you to imagine your kids were in his will, then those feelings are justified. Nevertheless, if he didn’t do this, you’re incorrect to have expected him to purchase “cars, etc.” on your children. Considering his marital history, his widow may have every penny he left her.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also often called Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
