DEAR ABBY: I’m 42 and recently had my first baby. My brother is six years younger and has a baby who just turned 1. Our mom has a complete of 4 biological grandkids and one step-grandchild.
I do know Mom loves all of them. She is a really caring and giving grandmother. But these days, anytime I bring up my daughter in conversation, she mechanically starts talking about my brother’s baby. I actually have noticed this is occurring so much, and my boyfriend has noticed it also.
We were recently at a family party, and anytime anyone mentioned their kids or grandkids, Mom would walk over and begin talking about my brother’s daughter. Don’t get me unsuitable, I like my niece. But Mom doesn’t speak about my daughter or my sister’s kids (teenagers) like she does my brother’s baby girl.
Am I unsuitable to feel that my mom must focus on my baby when she is round her? I get uninterested in her all the time bringing up my niece. My boyfriend is fed up with it, too, but hasn’t said anything to my mom. I truthfully don’t think she does it intentionally. Is that this something I should address along with her, or simply let or not it’s? — TICKED OFF IN TEXAS
DEAR TICKED OFF: Because that is bothering you sufficient that you just would write to me, you absolutely should discuss this along with your mother. And whenever you do, tell her your boyfriend has noticed it, too, and ask her why she feels it mandatory to do that. She could also be unaware she is doing it, and the effect it has been having on you.
DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend and I actually have been together for 2 years. We’ve had arguments about bedtime etiquette for the reason that honeymoon phase wore off. There’s one bed in his three-bedroom house. I wish to sleep in silence in darkness — I’ve all the time thought this was the perfect setting for quality sleep. My boyfriend, however, likes to take a seat up in bed with a dim light on while scrolling and playing videos on his phone while I’m next to him!
The primary time I asked if perhaps he could try this before coming to bed, he lost it and kicked me out of the bedroom. Since then, I actually have a minimum of gotten him to show off the lights, but he still watches videos and refuses to wear a headset or earbuds. He stays up much later than I do, so I can’t go to sleep until he’s ready.
He says I’m “overly sensitive” and gets upset when I’m going to sleep on the couch. We’ve had nasty fights about this, and I don’t understand how I’m unreasonable once I just wish to sleep. I feel he’s selfish. Who’s being unreasonable, and the way can I manage to get quality sleep with a partner like this? — SLEEP-DEPRIVED IN THE EAST
DEAR SLEEP-DEPRIVED: You usually are not unreasonable. Your boyfriend is controlling and inconsiderate. You must care for yourself. Sleep deprivation cannot only make an individual a dangerous driver and fewer efficient at work, but it could also make an individual sick.
In the event you usually are not living with this person full time, for the sake of your health, consider sleeping at your home on weeknights. In the event you live in his home, consider moving. In case your boyfriend is that this unreasonable in other areas, “consider reconsidering” the connection.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
DEAR ABBY: I’m 42 and recently had my first baby. My brother is six years younger and has a baby who just turned 1. Our mom has a complete of 4 biological grandkids and one step-grandchild.
I do know Mom loves all of them. She is a really caring and giving grandmother. But these days, anytime I bring up my daughter in conversation, she mechanically starts talking about my brother’s baby. I actually have noticed this is occurring so much, and my boyfriend has noticed it also.
We were recently at a family party, and anytime anyone mentioned their kids or grandkids, Mom would walk over and begin talking about my brother’s daughter. Don’t get me unsuitable, I like my niece. But Mom doesn’t speak about my daughter or my sister’s kids (teenagers) like she does my brother’s baby girl.
Am I unsuitable to feel that my mom must focus on my baby when she is round her? I get uninterested in her all the time bringing up my niece. My boyfriend is fed up with it, too, but hasn’t said anything to my mom. I truthfully don’t think she does it intentionally. Is that this something I should address along with her, or simply let or not it’s? — TICKED OFF IN TEXAS
DEAR TICKED OFF: Because that is bothering you sufficient that you just would write to me, you absolutely should discuss this along with your mother. And whenever you do, tell her your boyfriend has noticed it, too, and ask her why she feels it mandatory to do that. She could also be unaware she is doing it, and the effect it has been having on you.
DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend and I actually have been together for 2 years. We’ve had arguments about bedtime etiquette for the reason that honeymoon phase wore off. There’s one bed in his three-bedroom house. I wish to sleep in silence in darkness — I’ve all the time thought this was the perfect setting for quality sleep. My boyfriend, however, likes to take a seat up in bed with a dim light on while scrolling and playing videos on his phone while I’m next to him!
The primary time I asked if perhaps he could try this before coming to bed, he lost it and kicked me out of the bedroom. Since then, I actually have a minimum of gotten him to show off the lights, but he still watches videos and refuses to wear a headset or earbuds. He stays up much later than I do, so I can’t go to sleep until he’s ready.
He says I’m “overly sensitive” and gets upset when I’m going to sleep on the couch. We’ve had nasty fights about this, and I don’t understand how I’m unreasonable once I just wish to sleep. I feel he’s selfish. Who’s being unreasonable, and the way can I manage to get quality sleep with a partner like this? — SLEEP-DEPRIVED IN THE EAST
DEAR SLEEP-DEPRIVED: You usually are not unreasonable. Your boyfriend is controlling and inconsiderate. You must care for yourself. Sleep deprivation cannot only make an individual a dangerous driver and fewer efficient at work, but it could also make an individual sick.
In the event you usually are not living with this person full time, for the sake of your health, consider sleeping at your home on weeknights. In the event you live in his home, consider moving. In case your boyfriend is that this unreasonable in other areas, “consider reconsidering” the connection.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
