DEAR ABBY: My husband and I used to play in a band together. He played guitar, and I sang. He now has one other female singer in his band, and I can hardly contain my feelings. At first, he was invited into an existing band she was already in, and he accepted. But then, that band broke up and reformed, and he kept the girl in it. He knows how badly I even have desired to sing again. I attempted endlessly to resurrect us as a duo or a starter band, but getting him to work with me was like pulling teeth.
I used to be a singer in my very own right before him and since, but he has never been honest with me about why he doesn’t want me to perform with him again. This has affected my confidence a lot I even have virtually given up singing. It kills me that I’ve relinquished my artistic identity over this. The thing is, he’s just a neighborhood player — this just isn’t the large time. He had his heyday years ago, and he or she’s just average. They don’t have a following or crowds lining as much as see them.
I even have tried to be supportive because he needed the arrogance. But I’m like two people — the supportive wife and the manipulative green-eyed monster. So as to add insult to injury, she’s made clear that she doesn’t like me by unfriending me on social media. She named the band after herself, and posts provocative pictures of herself within the band everywhere in the web. I hate feeling like this. I don’t like who I’m. Do you have got any advice? — JEALOUS IN PENNSYLVANIA
DEAR JEALOUS: Although the band was your husband’s to start with, at the tip of your letter you state that the vocalist has named the band after herself — which leads me to consider the band is now hers and he’s her worker. The proven fact that this recent band isn’t doing particularly well may mean that it won’t last for much longer. You had a singing profession before you met your husband. It could be time to think about resurrecting it and reclaiming your personal artistic identity.
DEAR ABBY: Our daughter was widowed quite a few years ago. She’s now getting married for the second time. She and her fiancé are financially stable. They each have good jobs and are financing the marriage themselves. They’ve loads of furniture and other home items.
My query is, what can we give them as a marriage present, or how can we help them? Would it not be appropriate to supply to pay for the marriage cake and champagne for the reception? Another suggestions could be appreciated. — PARENTS OF THE BRIDE
DEAR PARENTS: Why not propose your idea and ask in case your daughter has some other ideas about how you possibly can be helpful. Because she and her fiancé have good jobs and are financing the marriage themselves, consider offering to purchase them something for his or her recent home, comparable to an appliance, or to contribute toward their honeymoon.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I used to play in a band together. He played guitar, and I sang. He now has one other female singer in his band, and I can hardly contain my feelings. At first, he was invited into an existing band she was already in, and he accepted. But then, that band broke up and reformed, and he kept the girl in it. He knows how badly I even have desired to sing again. I attempted endlessly to resurrect us as a duo or a starter band, but getting him to work with me was like pulling teeth.
I used to be a singer in my very own right before him and since, but he has never been honest with me about why he doesn’t want me to perform with him again. This has affected my confidence a lot I even have virtually given up singing. It kills me that I’ve relinquished my artistic identity over this. The thing is, he’s just a neighborhood player — this just isn’t the large time. He had his heyday years ago, and he or she’s just average. They don’t have a following or crowds lining as much as see them.
I even have tried to be supportive because he needed the arrogance. But I’m like two people — the supportive wife and the manipulative green-eyed monster. So as to add insult to injury, she’s made clear that she doesn’t like me by unfriending me on social media. She named the band after herself, and posts provocative pictures of herself within the band everywhere in the web. I hate feeling like this. I don’t like who I’m. Do you have got any advice? — JEALOUS IN PENNSYLVANIA
DEAR JEALOUS: Although the band was your husband’s to start with, at the tip of your letter you state that the vocalist has named the band after herself — which leads me to consider the band is now hers and he’s her worker. The proven fact that this recent band isn’t doing particularly well may mean that it won’t last for much longer. You had a singing profession before you met your husband. It could be time to think about resurrecting it and reclaiming your personal artistic identity.
DEAR ABBY: Our daughter was widowed quite a few years ago. She’s now getting married for the second time. She and her fiancé are financially stable. They each have good jobs and are financing the marriage themselves. They’ve loads of furniture and other home items.
My query is, what can we give them as a marriage present, or how can we help them? Would it not be appropriate to supply to pay for the marriage cake and champagne for the reception? Another suggestions could be appreciated. — PARENTS OF THE BRIDE
DEAR PARENTS: Why not propose your idea and ask in case your daughter has some other ideas about how you possibly can be helpful. Because she and her fiancé have good jobs and are financing the marriage themselves, consider offering to purchase them something for his or her recent home, comparable to an appliance, or to contribute toward their honeymoon.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
