DEAR ABBY: My mother-in-law resides with us, and she or he and my husband are superb friends. They’re quite a bit alike. They’re outgoing and so they’re huggers and so they talk quite a bit. I feel like a 3rd wheel more often than not, but I occupy myself by reading in one other a part of the home or going out.
Every little thing appears to be going quite well, except that before bedtime, they embrace and provides one another a fast kiss on the lips. I find it disgusting. I even have told my husband how I feel about it, and he says, “It’s my mom.” I tell him, “I never even hugged my dad, let alone kissed him on the lips.” I believe I’m bored with her living with us. Do you’re thinking that it’s normal for them to be kissing? — PUT OFF IN OREGON
DEAR PUT OFF: Whether I believe it is suitable on your husband’s mother to kiss him on the mouth is irrelevant. I assume that is something she has done since he was a toddler, and subsequently it’s normal for them. Your relationship together with your father has nothing to do with it. There is something unsuitable if you happen to feel like a 3rd wheel more often than not. It isn’t healthy, and it can proceed until you’ve got a heart-to-heart talk together with your husband about it.
DEAR ABBY: My godchildren and I were at all times very close. They consider me literally their second mom. Until now, we were blessed with great communication. The oldest at all times sent me a warm Mother’s Day greeting and called me often.
A couple of 12 months ago, she began ignoring all of my overtures. Her younger sister, who can be grown with children, commented on how odd it was, but now she’s doing it too. She said she thought it was terrible, but now she now not returns phone calls. Every now and then, she’ll send a loving text, but she says she is busy.
My godson, the one I’m closest to, has no problems like this. Once I ask if he thinks something is unsuitable with my girls or if their feelings toward me have modified, he says they’re probably busy. Once I ask the younger one if something is unsuitable, she at all times says, “No, love you, Mama! Been busy.” But she now not initiates contact. The older girl now ignores me completely. I don’t know what to do. My grown godchildren are like my very own. Please help. — SAD GODMOTHER IN FLORIDA
DEAR GODMOTHER: You take the silence as rejection, which is a mistake. Your godchildren are not any longer children. They’re adults with adult responsibilities, including children, spouses and careers that fill their time. Your godson and younger goddaughter have told you why they’re not in touch as often as they was once. It’s time to back off. Fill your time with other pursuits, reminiscent of activities you enjoy, time with contemporaries and volunteering your spare time to causes you are feeling are worthwhile.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also often called Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
DEAR ABBY: My mother-in-law resides with us, and she or he and my husband are superb friends. They’re quite a bit alike. They’re outgoing and so they’re huggers and so they talk quite a bit. I feel like a 3rd wheel more often than not, but I occupy myself by reading in one other a part of the home or going out.
Every little thing appears to be going quite well, except that before bedtime, they embrace and provides one another a fast kiss on the lips. I find it disgusting. I even have told my husband how I feel about it, and he says, “It’s my mom.” I tell him, “I never even hugged my dad, let alone kissed him on the lips.” I believe I’m bored with her living with us. Do you’re thinking that it’s normal for them to be kissing? — PUT OFF IN OREGON
DEAR PUT OFF: Whether I believe it is suitable on your husband’s mother to kiss him on the mouth is irrelevant. I assume that is something she has done since he was a toddler, and subsequently it’s normal for them. Your relationship together with your father has nothing to do with it. There is something unsuitable if you happen to feel like a 3rd wheel more often than not. It isn’t healthy, and it can proceed until you’ve got a heart-to-heart talk together with your husband about it.
DEAR ABBY: My godchildren and I were at all times very close. They consider me literally their second mom. Until now, we were blessed with great communication. The oldest at all times sent me a warm Mother’s Day greeting and called me often.
A couple of 12 months ago, she began ignoring all of my overtures. Her younger sister, who can be grown with children, commented on how odd it was, but now she’s doing it too. She said she thought it was terrible, but now she now not returns phone calls. Every now and then, she’ll send a loving text, but she says she is busy.
My godson, the one I’m closest to, has no problems like this. Once I ask if he thinks something is unsuitable with my girls or if their feelings toward me have modified, he says they’re probably busy. Once I ask the younger one if something is unsuitable, she at all times says, “No, love you, Mama! Been busy.” But she now not initiates contact. The older girl now ignores me completely. I don’t know what to do. My grown godchildren are like my very own. Please help. — SAD GODMOTHER IN FLORIDA
DEAR GODMOTHER: You take the silence as rejection, which is a mistake. Your godchildren are not any longer children. They’re adults with adult responsibilities, including children, spouses and careers that fill their time. Your godson and younger goddaughter have told you why they’re not in touch as often as they was once. It’s time to back off. Fill your time with other pursuits, reminiscent of activities you enjoy, time with contemporaries and volunteering your spare time to causes you are feeling are worthwhile.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also often called Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
