DEAR ABBY: I’m a 48-year-old woman. Once I was 17, I connected with this guy who was a part of my friend group. I knew he had a crush on me, so I made a decision to have sex with him in his automotive. It meant nothing to me, but all the pieces to him.
He has tried to succeed in me through the years. If I used to be married, he was single. After my first husband died, I did meet up with him briefly. I suppose I shouldn’t have done that. I asked him if he wanted up to now, but he was married. (His marriage didn’t last long.) Then he was upset that I met an exquisite man and was dating.
That wonderful man and I at the moment are married, and my old highschool hookup is pouting and upset. He’s declaring his love for me and insisting that I leave my husband for him. I’m not going to do this. Is the undeniable fact that he continues to be in love with me after 30 years romantic or creepy? — GOT HISTORY IN TEXAS
DEAR GOT HISTORY: It appears your old highschool hookup hasn’t grown emotionally since those days. What is happening in his head isn’t romantic; it’s disrespectful. His unwillingness or inability to maneuver forward in his own life is somewhat creepy. Say that whenever you tell him to quit bothering you and your husband and get on together with his own life. After that, if needed, block him.
DEAR ABBY: My son and daughter-in-law had their first child three months ago. This was the primary grandchild on each side. Her mother stayed together with her for 2 weeks after the cesarean birth. I actually have no issues with that.
My issue is, my son told me I needed to go away once they and the newborn got here home from the hospital. Mind you, I live 6 1/2 hours away. I fought him to get not less than three days once they got home. Then he said I needed to go away, but he never told his father-in-law to go away. Also, on the times I did stay, they asked me to get a motel while her parents stayed with them. I only got to go over through the day.
Once I told my son my feelings were hurt, he said I used to be being a drama queen. I did respect all the pieces they asked. I just need to know if I used to be fallacious for sharing my feelings or should I actually have remained quiet. It has caused friction between us now. — SECOND-CLASS IN TENNESSEE
DEAR SECOND-CLASS: This case shouldn’t be about you. It’s a couple of brand-new baby and adjusting to parenthood. You will have come on too strong and expected an excessive amount of whenever you said what you probably did. Your daughter-in-law was recovering from surgery after her first child and needed her mother, not her mother-in-law. Her father was probably a part of the package deal. This isn’t a contest, and in case you make it one, you’ll turn into even less welcome than you at the moment are.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also often called Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
DEAR ABBY: I’m a 48-year-old woman. Once I was 17, I connected with this guy who was a part of my friend group. I knew he had a crush on me, so I made a decision to have sex with him in his automotive. It meant nothing to me, but all the pieces to him.
He has tried to succeed in me through the years. If I used to be married, he was single. After my first husband died, I did meet up with him briefly. I suppose I shouldn’t have done that. I asked him if he wanted up to now, but he was married. (His marriage didn’t last long.) Then he was upset that I met an exquisite man and was dating.
That wonderful man and I at the moment are married, and my old highschool hookup is pouting and upset. He’s declaring his love for me and insisting that I leave my husband for him. I’m not going to do this. Is the undeniable fact that he continues to be in love with me after 30 years romantic or creepy? — GOT HISTORY IN TEXAS
DEAR GOT HISTORY: It appears your old highschool hookup hasn’t grown emotionally since those days. What is happening in his head isn’t romantic; it’s disrespectful. His unwillingness or inability to maneuver forward in his own life is somewhat creepy. Say that whenever you tell him to quit bothering you and your husband and get on together with his own life. After that, if needed, block him.
DEAR ABBY: My son and daughter-in-law had their first child three months ago. This was the primary grandchild on each side. Her mother stayed together with her for 2 weeks after the cesarean birth. I actually have no issues with that.
My issue is, my son told me I needed to go away once they and the newborn got here home from the hospital. Mind you, I live 6 1/2 hours away. I fought him to get not less than three days once they got home. Then he said I needed to go away, but he never told his father-in-law to go away. Also, on the times I did stay, they asked me to get a motel while her parents stayed with them. I only got to go over through the day.
Once I told my son my feelings were hurt, he said I used to be being a drama queen. I did respect all the pieces they asked. I just need to know if I used to be fallacious for sharing my feelings or should I actually have remained quiet. It has caused friction between us now. — SECOND-CLASS IN TENNESSEE
DEAR SECOND-CLASS: This case shouldn’t be about you. It’s a couple of brand-new baby and adjusting to parenthood. You will have come on too strong and expected an excessive amount of whenever you said what you probably did. Your daughter-in-law was recovering from surgery after her first child and needed her mother, not her mother-in-law. Her father was probably a part of the package deal. This isn’t a contest, and in case you make it one, you’ll turn into even less welcome than you at the moment are.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also often called Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
