DEAR ABBY: I’m a 64-year-old guy. I’m single and have two daughters and 4 grandkids. A young woman (“Sarah”), who’s my daughter’s age, and I even have been climbing buddies for the past five years. I treat her like my third daughter and a member of the family. Sarah is married, and her husband doesn’t enjoy climbing. Her husband and my daughters accept our friendship and are completely happy that I discovered an individual I can hike with.
I even have been dating a girl (“Toni”) who’s near my age. Six months ago, I suggested we must always spend our lives together. My daughters and Sarah were completely happy for me. Toni rejected my proposal, citing that I will need to have some type of romantic relationship with Sarah.
When I discussed it to Sarah, she distanced from me. I feel she thinks she could have interfered with my relationship with Toni. We’re still friends but not like before. Should I check with Sarah and ask why she distanced from me? I feel depressed about this and have some remorse. I mustn’t have told her what Toni said. — HIKER IN COLORADO
DEAR HIKER: I don’t think you probably did anything improper by telling Sarah what Toni implied. You’ve a right to ask any query you would like of your climbing buddy. You won’t know why your warm five-year relationship along with her cooled unless you ask.
What I would love to know is whether or not you might be still dating Toni after she rejected your proposal. If the reply is yes, do you intend to proceed, knowing you’ve gotten no future along with her unless you discover a male climbing buddy?
DEAR ABBY: I even have had a friend who has been in my life and a part of my group of friends’ lives since highschool. Years and years later, she has turn out to be increasingly negative toward all of us for no reason. Her husband is dying now, and we don’t know handle it.
She has ghosted all of us because she’s so stuffed with hatred and negativity. We had many years of fun and memories, but she wants nothing to do with us. How will we handle the death of her husband? She says we’re all phonies, which is all in her head. — PERPLEXED IN OHIO
DEAR PERPLEXED: How long has this woman been becoming “negative”? There could also be a reason why she has modified. Her husband is sick and he’s not going to get well. If she loves him and feels any responsibility to him in any respect, she’s directing all of her energies in that direction.
The option to handle this could be for you longtime friends to step forward. Tell her you care. Volunteer to assist in any way she is going to allow, and don’t isolate her any greater than she has isolated herself. In case you haven’t done that, I can see why she may need said she thought you were phonies.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
DEAR ABBY: I’m a 64-year-old guy. I’m single and have two daughters and 4 grandkids. A young woman (“Sarah”), who’s my daughter’s age, and I even have been climbing buddies for the past five years. I treat her like my third daughter and a member of the family. Sarah is married, and her husband doesn’t enjoy climbing. Her husband and my daughters accept our friendship and are completely happy that I discovered an individual I can hike with.
I even have been dating a girl (“Toni”) who’s near my age. Six months ago, I suggested we must always spend our lives together. My daughters and Sarah were completely happy for me. Toni rejected my proposal, citing that I will need to have some type of romantic relationship with Sarah.
When I discussed it to Sarah, she distanced from me. I feel she thinks she could have interfered with my relationship with Toni. We’re still friends but not like before. Should I check with Sarah and ask why she distanced from me? I feel depressed about this and have some remorse. I mustn’t have told her what Toni said. — HIKER IN COLORADO
DEAR HIKER: I don’t think you probably did anything improper by telling Sarah what Toni implied. You’ve a right to ask any query you would like of your climbing buddy. You won’t know why your warm five-year relationship along with her cooled unless you ask.
What I would love to know is whether or not you might be still dating Toni after she rejected your proposal. If the reply is yes, do you intend to proceed, knowing you’ve gotten no future along with her unless you discover a male climbing buddy?
DEAR ABBY: I even have had a friend who has been in my life and a part of my group of friends’ lives since highschool. Years and years later, she has turn out to be increasingly negative toward all of us for no reason. Her husband is dying now, and we don’t know handle it.
She has ghosted all of us because she’s so stuffed with hatred and negativity. We had many years of fun and memories, but she wants nothing to do with us. How will we handle the death of her husband? She says we’re all phonies, which is all in her head. — PERPLEXED IN OHIO
DEAR PERPLEXED: How long has this woman been becoming “negative”? There could also be a reason why she has modified. Her husband is sick and he’s not going to get well. If she loves him and feels any responsibility to him in any respect, she’s directing all of her energies in that direction.
The option to handle this could be for you longtime friends to step forward. Tell her you care. Volunteer to assist in any way she is going to allow, and don’t isolate her any greater than she has isolated herself. In case you haven’t done that, I can see why she may need said she thought you were phonies.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
