DEAR ABBY: I even have been with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years. Before me, he was known for sleeping around. He has never cheated on me that I’m aware of, but once we go to social gatherings (or simply out), he flirts with other women. If there’s one other woman within the room, he keeps his eyes on her like I can’t see it happening.
After I told him several times that it really bothered me, he said I used to be overreacting. When he drinks, it’s 10 times worse. I’m attempting to let it go, but it surely hurts my feelings deeply. In his mind, it’s OK that we hang around with women he has been to bed with. He says it’s no big deal. How do I learn to cope with all of this and be completely satisfied? I just want the respect I deserve. — GIRLFRIEND OF MR. POPULAR
DEAR GIRLFRIEND: If you happen to want the respect you deserve, discover a man who has some respect for ladies. Clearly your boyfriend doesn’t. If he cared about your feelings, he wouldn’t ogle other women while the 2 of you’re out together. Doing so after you told him the way it affected you is rude and inconsiderate.
I do know you could have invested a number of time on this person, but he isn’t going to alter. Unless you desire to perhaps be married to a womanizer with a drinking problem, end the romance now. (And once that’s done, ask your doctor to check you for STDs.)
DEAR ABBY: My husband’s daughter lives in one other state. When COVID hit, her youngest was still in class. After they closed down, the girl didn’t own a laptop or tablet (and the varsity didn’t provide one), so she couldn’t do her schoolwork. We offered to supply her with a tablet and run it through our phone plan so she had access if their Wi-Fi got bogged down or didn’t work.
Fast-forward to today: That child is out of highschool and not lives at home. Her mom has possession of the tablet and uses it repeatedly. She has job and will take over the plan. I’m still paying for her web access and have paid for that tablet repeatedly over with just the monthly access fee. On top of that, Mom doesn’t make much effort to maintain involved together with her dad or me. Months go by with no phone calls or texts, and the last time I dialed her number, I got a message that made it sound like she had blocked my number. Phone calls from her dad go unanswered.
I would like to shut down the road the tablet is connected to, but I do know when she figures it out, she’ll call raging that it was a present. Nevertheless, it was a present to her daughter, to not her. Must I keep paying to maintain peace, or shut it down? — MIFFED STEPMOM
DEAR STEPMOM: I can see why you is likely to be miffed. Your husband’s daughter is distant and never curious about fostering a relationship together with her father otherwise you. Discuss this together with your husband. Because his daughter has a job and might afford to pay the monthly access fee, there isn’t any logical reason why you need to be footing the bill.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also generally known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
DEAR ABBY: I even have been with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years. Before me, he was known for sleeping around. He has never cheated on me that I’m aware of, but once we go to social gatherings (or simply out), he flirts with other women. If there’s one other woman within the room, he keeps his eyes on her like I can’t see it happening.
After I told him several times that it really bothered me, he said I used to be overreacting. When he drinks, it’s 10 times worse. I’m attempting to let it go, but it surely hurts my feelings deeply. In his mind, it’s OK that we hang around with women he has been to bed with. He says it’s no big deal. How do I learn to cope with all of this and be completely satisfied? I just want the respect I deserve. — GIRLFRIEND OF MR. POPULAR
DEAR GIRLFRIEND: If you happen to want the respect you deserve, discover a man who has some respect for ladies. Clearly your boyfriend doesn’t. If he cared about your feelings, he wouldn’t ogle other women while the 2 of you’re out together. Doing so after you told him the way it affected you is rude and inconsiderate.
I do know you could have invested a number of time on this person, but he isn’t going to alter. Unless you desire to perhaps be married to a womanizer with a drinking problem, end the romance now. (And once that’s done, ask your doctor to check you for STDs.)
DEAR ABBY: My husband’s daughter lives in one other state. When COVID hit, her youngest was still in class. After they closed down, the girl didn’t own a laptop or tablet (and the varsity didn’t provide one), so she couldn’t do her schoolwork. We offered to supply her with a tablet and run it through our phone plan so she had access if their Wi-Fi got bogged down or didn’t work.
Fast-forward to today: That child is out of highschool and not lives at home. Her mom has possession of the tablet and uses it repeatedly. She has job and will take over the plan. I’m still paying for her web access and have paid for that tablet repeatedly over with just the monthly access fee. On top of that, Mom doesn’t make much effort to maintain involved together with her dad or me. Months go by with no phone calls or texts, and the last time I dialed her number, I got a message that made it sound like she had blocked my number. Phone calls from her dad go unanswered.
I would like to shut down the road the tablet is connected to, but I do know when she figures it out, she’ll call raging that it was a present. Nevertheless, it was a present to her daughter, to not her. Must I keep paying to maintain peace, or shut it down? — MIFFED STEPMOM
DEAR STEPMOM: I can see why you is likely to be miffed. Your husband’s daughter is distant and never curious about fostering a relationship together with her father otherwise you. Discuss this together with your husband. Because his daughter has a job and might afford to pay the monthly access fee, there isn’t any logical reason why you need to be footing the bill.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also generally known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
