DEAR ABBY: My fiance’s daughter is having a baby. Her mother helps give the shower. My fiance and his ex have been divorced for 21 years. She was the one who cheated, asked for the divorce, and kicked him out. She threatened to not attend her daughter’s wedding because he was bringing me. Now we have been together nine years now.
I’m not invited to the shower since the ex doesn’t want me there. It’s not even being held at her home. His daughter likes me but doesn’t wish to upset her mom. I believe it’s time for the ex to grow up and get a life. I told my fiance the entire thing is childish, but now I now not wish to go to the shower because you possibly can’t like me in the future after which not the following. What should I do? — EX ISSUES IN THE MIDWEST
DEAR EX ISSUES: Be the adult your fiance’s ex isn’t. Suck it up and make plans with a few of your mates so that you’re not sitting alone feeling sorry for yourself while the child shower is going on. Buy a pleasant present for the baby, offer it to the mother at another time, and don’t make waves.
DEAR ABBY: I used to be recently in a traumatic automobile crash (hit head-on by a drunk driver inside a mile of my home). It resulted in my right leg being broken in multiple places. I purchased a automobile with the insurance claim. Inside a month and abruptly, my mother bought me the very same automobile that was totaled within the accident. The catch is, my mother expects me to sell the automobile I purchased and provides her the proceeds.
First, this was portrayed as a present. Now it looks like it’s a debt hanging over my head. Wouldn’t it be rude or selfish of me to maintain the automobile I bought, or keep the cash if I determine to sell? The stimulus checks have been helpful, but my financial future is up within the air due to life-altering accident. — INJURED IN INDIANA
DEAR INJURED: Keep the automobile you bought. Tell your mother you understand she meant well. Then give her back the automobile she bought, in addition to the keys and the pink slip, so she will do whatever she wants with it. When you do, it should cause less conflict.
DEAR ABBY: I’m having an issue with love. I like two boys. The issue is that they are best friends, and I even have already kissed them each. I don’t know what to do. We aren’t dating. I can’t select, because if I date considered one of them the opposite shall be offended with me and together with his friend. Help me, please. — WORRIED STUDENT IN SPAIN
DEAR STUDENT: You’re lucky that you’ve gotten youth and the liberty to decide on. No matter which of the boys you decide, there shall be problems. That’s why I suggest you get romantically involved with neither one, find another person to “love” and refrain from kissing that person’s friends. Buena suerte!
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