Reddit users nearly universally criticized a person who floated the concept of selling a family heirloom he inherited to pay for his future “memorable” wedding.
“AITA for selling a family heirloom to pay for my destination wedding?” asked Reddit user “throwaway205813” in a Friday, April 21, post in Reddit’s “Am I the A–hole” subreddit.
Within the post, the author explained that he’s a 39-year-old man who’s engaged to a 38-year-old woman, they usually are getting married this summer.
He didn’t share his location.
“We each wish to have quite a lavish wedding at a winery in one other state,” wrote throwaway205813.
“The 2 of us agree that it’s a very powerful occasion in our lives, so we must always make it as memorable as possible,” he said.
While each he and his fiancée have “stable jobs and an excellent amount of savings,” that is not going to cover their “admittedly ambitious” plans for his or her wedding.
In January, the person’s father died, he said — leaving him a “very useful (think five figures) family heirloom.”
In later replies within the thread, throwaway205813 explained that it’s a “very old painting by a lesser-known artist.”
He added, “I’m not much for big family traditions, so even though it’s a pleasant thing to have, I’m not massively attached to it.
“I actually have loads of other good memories of my father and I don’t need a flowery heirloom to recollect him by.”
His younger brother, nonetheless, is a “huge history nerd” — and is kind of attached to the painting, said throwaway205813.
“He was very upset by my father’s decision in the desire (the explanation it went to me and never to him is that this has been traditionally passed to firstborn sons),” wrote the person.
“My fiancée and I don’t plan to have children, and I feel he assumed subsequently that he (or his children) could be in line to get it if I were to pass away.”
As an alternative, “after some discussion,” throwaway205813 and his fiancée decided they would really like to sell the painting to pay for the marriage.
This didn’t go over well along with his younger brother — who was speculated to be the very best man at the marriage.
He “was furious when he discovered, and said he wanted nothing to do with the marriage anymore,” the person wrote.
“He thinks my wife-to-be and I are behaving like spoiled brats.”
Moreover, the younger brother “convinced my uncle and cousins not to return to the marriage either,” the person revealed.
Since his parents are deceased, this implies “virtually none of my family will attend the marriage, which I’m really upset about.”
He wrote as well, “I feel since I legally inherited the heirloom, I can do what I would like with it. I feel he’s just upset because I ruined his expectations of sooner or later inheriting it, but since my uncle and cousins agree with him enough that they’re not coming to the marriage, I’m not so sure I’m in the best. AITA?”
Fox News Digital reached out to throwaway205813 for comment.
On the AITA subreddit, people can reply to posts and indicate the poster is “NTA” (“Not the A–hole”), “YTA” (“You’re the A–hole”), “NAH” (“No A–holes Here”) or “ESH” (“Everyone Sucks Here”).
Users can “upvote” responses they think are helpful and “downvote” ones that will not be.
The overwhelming majority of the greater than 4,000 replies to the post deemed throwaway205813 as “YTA” — and the AITA subreddit even tagged the post as “A–hole.”
“YTA. You might be being very selfish and shortsighted,” said Reddit user “lihzee” within the top-upvoted reply.
“In your late 30s, you’ll be able to’t afford [a lavish wedding] without hocking something vital in your loved ones? Yikes,” added lihzee.
“Technically you’ll be able to sell it since it’s yours, but YTA for caring more a few ridiculously lavish wedding that may break the bank than you do in your relationship along with your brother or your dad’s tradition,” said Redditor “Pepper-90210” in one other top comment.
“In case your dad had known that you just were going to sell it, he would have left it to your brother. I hope your lavish wedding is value it to you,” said Pepper-90210.
One married Redditor called throwaway205813 “extremely shortsighted” for wanting to sell the painting.
“Also, (throwaway205813), I actually have had so many higher days in my marriage than my wedding day and lots of them were free,” said a Redditor with the username “somewhatclevr.”
“You might be selling a bit of your loved ones’s history and estranging your loved ones for one event. Stop being extremely shortsighted. The world doesn’t revolve around you,” wrote “somewhatclevr.”
Redditor Hazelsmom64 replied along with her own story in one other top-upvoted comment, saying that she, too, had received a priceless heirloom.
The heirloom “passed from mother to daughter on and on,” wrote Hazelsmom64, adding that she was the last person to receive it.
“It got here over on the Mayflower. From me, it’s going to a museum in Massachusetts,” she wrote.
“You possibly can have given it to your brother. People hate destination weddings.”
One other user asked throwaway205813 what his late father would say if he knew the son could be selling the painting to pay for a marriage.
Throwaway205813’s said he was “truthfully unsure” how his father would react.
“He and my brother used to geek out over it together so much, so I could see him being upset,” he wrote.
“I feel he was pretty torn that tradition dictated the heirloom go to me and never my brother. But he was also a really understanding man so I could see him being OK with it.”
This, also, didn’t go over well with other Reddit users.
“So he didn’t even actually need you to have it. Wow. You’re an enormous AH,” said lihzee, responding with one other comment.
