DEAR ABBY: I recently received a voicemail from my brother that recorded a conversation he was having along with his wife. It was clear he didn’t know he had unintentionally dialed my phone during this conversation.
It was an argument, which lasted two minutes before there was a pause within the conversation and he hung up.
I haven’t addressed it with him yet because I’m shocked at my sister-in-law’s behavior during this conversation, and the best way she treats my brother.
I actually have known for some time that she blames others for situations she should share the blame in, but I had never heard her in a non-public conversation until this voicemail.
My brother must know those two minutes live to tell the tale my phone, although we haven’t spoken about it. I need to speak with him and tell him that I heard what she said.
I’d like him to know I hope she treats him with respect, and that she sounds ungrateful for all of the exertions he puts in at his job of their one-income household with two children. How should I handle this? — OVERHEARD IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR OVERHEARD: Check with your brother and express that the fight between him and his wife was partially recorded in your phone.
Then tell him you don’t mean to pry, but think he and his wife may benefit from marital counseling in the event that they are each willing. (I hope he’ll listen and have some sessions, even when his wife refuses.)
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are retired. He sits in his recliner chair all day, every single day. He says he’s “studying his Bible” or watching YouTube videos.
He also sleeps 12 to 14 hours after he goes to bed around 8 p.m. most nights.
This has been occurring for no less than a 12 months, and I’m SICK of it. I need a companion to do things with.
Nothing I actually have done or said motivates him to rise up and move. Since I’m not willing to just accept this lifestyle for myself, I take classes on the Y three to 5 times per week, go to lunch with friends, read and attend our neighborhood book club, paint and do crafts, and talk with or email friends.
Most nights, I watch TV upstairs by myself. I could as well be single! Any suggestions? — UNCOUPLED IN SOUTH CAROLINA
DEAR UNCOUPLED: Get that husband of yours to his doctor for a radical physical and neurological examination. People of all ages need some type of exercise. When individuals who weren’t sedentary spend all day, every single day sitting, it’s dangerous to their health.
Your husband could suffer from any variety of ailments, including depression. Ensuring he has been checked out might be life changing not just for him but additionally for you.
DEAR ABBY: When the hostess offers you leftovers after a pleasant meal, how much should you’re taking? — WONDERING IN THE SOUTH
DEAR WONDERING: Don’t be greedy. Leave enough food for other guests to take some home in the event that they wish, and don’t forget to do the identical to your hostess.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also often called Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
DEAR ABBY: I recently received a voicemail from my brother that recorded a conversation he was having along with his wife. It was clear he didn’t know he had unintentionally dialed my phone during this conversation.
It was an argument, which lasted two minutes before there was a pause within the conversation and he hung up.
I haven’t addressed it with him yet because I’m shocked at my sister-in-law’s behavior during this conversation, and the best way she treats my brother.
I actually have known for some time that she blames others for situations she should share the blame in, but I had never heard her in a non-public conversation until this voicemail.
My brother must know those two minutes live to tell the tale my phone, although we haven’t spoken about it. I need to speak with him and tell him that I heard what she said.
I’d like him to know I hope she treats him with respect, and that she sounds ungrateful for all of the exertions he puts in at his job of their one-income household with two children. How should I handle this? — OVERHEARD IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR OVERHEARD: Check with your brother and express that the fight between him and his wife was partially recorded in your phone.
Then tell him you don’t mean to pry, but think he and his wife may benefit from marital counseling in the event that they are each willing. (I hope he’ll listen and have some sessions, even when his wife refuses.)
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are retired. He sits in his recliner chair all day, every single day. He says he’s “studying his Bible” or watching YouTube videos.
He also sleeps 12 to 14 hours after he goes to bed around 8 p.m. most nights.
This has been occurring for no less than a 12 months, and I’m SICK of it. I need a companion to do things with.
Nothing I actually have done or said motivates him to rise up and move. Since I’m not willing to just accept this lifestyle for myself, I take classes on the Y three to 5 times per week, go to lunch with friends, read and attend our neighborhood book club, paint and do crafts, and talk with or email friends.
Most nights, I watch TV upstairs by myself. I could as well be single! Any suggestions? — UNCOUPLED IN SOUTH CAROLINA
DEAR UNCOUPLED: Get that husband of yours to his doctor for a radical physical and neurological examination. People of all ages need some type of exercise. When individuals who weren’t sedentary spend all day, every single day sitting, it’s dangerous to their health.
Your husband could suffer from any variety of ailments, including depression. Ensuring he has been checked out might be life changing not just for him but additionally for you.
DEAR ABBY: When the hostess offers you leftovers after a pleasant meal, how much should you’re taking? — WONDERING IN THE SOUTH
DEAR WONDERING: Don’t be greedy. Leave enough food for other guests to take some home in the event that they wish, and don’t forget to do the identical to your hostess.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also often called Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
