DEAR ABBY: I met a person from one other country through the web last yr. To start with, we talked day-after-day via video chat. We share much in common. We never have an issue keeping our conversations going, and we pick up on one another’s emotions and desires without even trying.
Our communication is less frequent now that our relationship is maturing. With this newfound freedom from the phone, I’m beginning to query how sensible it’s to proceed pursuing a future together. Although now we have never met in person, I feel he’s trustworthy and absolutely wonderful, and I’d even go up to now as to say he’s my soulmate.
The questions which might be all the time behind my mind, though, are: Am I crazy for pondering that is the actual deal? Is it too good to be true? And if I don’t pursue this further, am I missing my only opportunity for a long-lasting love? — MATCHED IN MICHIGAN
DEAR MATCHED: This shouldn’t be your “only” opportunity for lasting love. Whether that is the actual deal or too good to be true stays to be seen. Since you found this match online, it’s good to be cautious. If it’s possible, arrange to go to him in his country, which offers you the chance to satisfy his family and friends and observe his living situation. If he’s real, he should welcome it. If he’s hesitant, nevertheless, regard it as a big red flag.
DEAR ABBY: My older sister and I are educated professionals in our late 40s. We reside in numerous states. Our father’s cognitive function and mobility are deteriorating, so my parents sold their large home in one other state to downsize and move to a senior community near me. The world through which I live is inexpensive. Living near me is a logical selection, since I’m attentive and reliable, and I even have often assisted them and my in-laws up to now.
My sister has chosen to view my parents’ move as their selecting me over her. Initially, she stopped chatting with me. After I texted and asked why I hadn’t heard from her, she said my texts “weren’t high on her list of priorities.” In one other exchange, she told me she hoped my husband, who’s being treated for a heart condition, dies before he can vote. Then, she stopped chatting with our parents. During their last email exchange, she told my mother to cry on the shoulder of the “daughter she selected.”
My sister has treated me similarly up to now, but she has never before shut out our parents. She used to call them often, they usually miss talking to her. I’m unsure reconciling is an option, nevertheless it is difficult to witness her being so cruel during this time of utmost stress. What are your thoughts? — SIBLING DRAMA IN GEORGIA
DEAR DRAMA: Your sister’s attempts to punish you and your parents for the choice they made has only reinforced that they made the proper one. I’m sorry she has been so successful in inflicting pain on all of you because none of you deserve her over-the-top response. By shunning you, she has succeeded only in isolating herself from those that take care of her.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
DEAR ABBY: I met a person from one other country through the web last yr. To start with, we talked day-after-day via video chat. We share much in common. We never have an issue keeping our conversations going, and we pick up on one another’s emotions and desires without even trying.
Our communication is less frequent now that our relationship is maturing. With this newfound freedom from the phone, I’m beginning to query how sensible it’s to proceed pursuing a future together. Although now we have never met in person, I feel he’s trustworthy and absolutely wonderful, and I’d even go up to now as to say he’s my soulmate.
The questions which might be all the time behind my mind, though, are: Am I crazy for pondering that is the actual deal? Is it too good to be true? And if I don’t pursue this further, am I missing my only opportunity for a long-lasting love? — MATCHED IN MICHIGAN
DEAR MATCHED: This shouldn’t be your “only” opportunity for lasting love. Whether that is the actual deal or too good to be true stays to be seen. Since you found this match online, it’s good to be cautious. If it’s possible, arrange to go to him in his country, which offers you the chance to satisfy his family and friends and observe his living situation. If he’s real, he should welcome it. If he’s hesitant, nevertheless, regard it as a big red flag.
DEAR ABBY: My older sister and I are educated professionals in our late 40s. We reside in numerous states. Our father’s cognitive function and mobility are deteriorating, so my parents sold their large home in one other state to downsize and move to a senior community near me. The world through which I live is inexpensive. Living near me is a logical selection, since I’m attentive and reliable, and I even have often assisted them and my in-laws up to now.
My sister has chosen to view my parents’ move as their selecting me over her. Initially, she stopped chatting with me. After I texted and asked why I hadn’t heard from her, she said my texts “weren’t high on her list of priorities.” In one other exchange, she told me she hoped my husband, who’s being treated for a heart condition, dies before he can vote. Then, she stopped chatting with our parents. During their last email exchange, she told my mother to cry on the shoulder of the “daughter she selected.”
My sister has treated me similarly up to now, but she has never before shut out our parents. She used to call them often, they usually miss talking to her. I’m unsure reconciling is an option, nevertheless it is difficult to witness her being so cruel during this time of utmost stress. What are your thoughts? — SIBLING DRAMA IN GEORGIA
DEAR DRAMA: Your sister’s attempts to punish you and your parents for the choice they made has only reinforced that they made the proper one. I’m sorry she has been so successful in inflicting pain on all of you because none of you deserve her over-the-top response. By shunning you, she has succeeded only in isolating herself from those that take care of her.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
