DEAR ABBY: During a visit to Las Vegas, I type of had a one-night stand. I’m in a relationship. I felt bad afterward. Problem is, I began having feelings for this guy, “Leo.” We’d message forwards and backwards, more on my end than his. I suppose you possibly can say I used to be hung up on him. I even have since mended my relationship with my partner.
My issue is, Leo is best friends with my best friend’s husband. When he visits, I’m excluded, which implies I can’t hang around together with her. I tell her we’re all adults, we usually are not in highschool and might be in the identical room with one another. It’s not fair to me. Are my feelings justified? Any advice? — FEELING SHUNNED ON THE WEST COAST
DEAR FEELING: This isn’t all about your feelings. You stated that you are feeling you’ll be able to be in the identical room together with your best friend, her husband and Leo socially. Hasn’t it occurred to you that Leo is probably not as open-minded about that fling as you’re? Seeing it’s possible you’ll make him feel guilty. This may occasionally be a case of “what happens in Vegas” not only not staying in Vegas, but additionally having repercussions. See your best friend when Leo isn’t around.
DEAR ABBY: Last yr, my dear hubby went to the doctor for back pain. Inside per week he had been diagnosed with incurable cancer. He’s in treatment, and we hope he may have an extended remission, but it surely has been a really stressful yr crammed with health issues.
I’m now due for my annual checkup, and I’m extremely anxious about it. I’m no spring chicken. I even have some issues (hypertension, obese), and I’m terrified she is going to tell me something awful is improper. I even have been crying for per week now, and I’m almost to the purpose of canceling my appointment. How do I overcome this extreme anxiety? — FEARING THE WORST IN OHIO
DEAR FEARING: You might be having extreme anxiety because with a sick husband, you’re living with extreme pressure. Pick up that phone, tell your physician exactly what’s occurring and ask her to prescribe something to calm your nerves before the appointment. In no way must you cancel it because you’re afraid of what you would possibly hear! If anything is improper, it’s necessary to nip it within the bud before it progresses.
DEAR ABBY: I even have been on phone calls recently with a married friend when the spouse will suddenly chime in, without my knowing they were listening. There are occasions when I need a conversation to be private with just one person. What’s the polite approach to make this occur in a world of speakerphones? — CONFIDENTIAL IN INDIANA
DEAR CONFIDENTIAL: The approach to handle it’s to inform the married person you prefer to to know if someone is inside earshot because you would like your conversation to be private. And if it happens again, convey sensitive information to that person only face-to-face.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also generally known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
DEAR ABBY: During a visit to Las Vegas, I type of had a one-night stand. I’m in a relationship. I felt bad afterward. Problem is, I began having feelings for this guy, “Leo.” We’d message forwards and backwards, more on my end than his. I suppose you possibly can say I used to be hung up on him. I even have since mended my relationship with my partner.
My issue is, Leo is best friends with my best friend’s husband. When he visits, I’m excluded, which implies I can’t hang around together with her. I tell her we’re all adults, we usually are not in highschool and might be in the identical room with one another. It’s not fair to me. Are my feelings justified? Any advice? — FEELING SHUNNED ON THE WEST COAST
DEAR FEELING: This isn’t all about your feelings. You stated that you are feeling you’ll be able to be in the identical room together with your best friend, her husband and Leo socially. Hasn’t it occurred to you that Leo is probably not as open-minded about that fling as you’re? Seeing it’s possible you’ll make him feel guilty. This may occasionally be a case of “what happens in Vegas” not only not staying in Vegas, but additionally having repercussions. See your best friend when Leo isn’t around.
DEAR ABBY: Last yr, my dear hubby went to the doctor for back pain. Inside per week he had been diagnosed with incurable cancer. He’s in treatment, and we hope he may have an extended remission, but it surely has been a really stressful yr crammed with health issues.
I’m now due for my annual checkup, and I’m extremely anxious about it. I’m no spring chicken. I even have some issues (hypertension, obese), and I’m terrified she is going to tell me something awful is improper. I even have been crying for per week now, and I’m almost to the purpose of canceling my appointment. How do I overcome this extreme anxiety? — FEARING THE WORST IN OHIO
DEAR FEARING: You might be having extreme anxiety because with a sick husband, you’re living with extreme pressure. Pick up that phone, tell your physician exactly what’s occurring and ask her to prescribe something to calm your nerves before the appointment. In no way must you cancel it because you’re afraid of what you would possibly hear! If anything is improper, it’s necessary to nip it within the bud before it progresses.
DEAR ABBY: I even have been on phone calls recently with a married friend when the spouse will suddenly chime in, without my knowing they were listening. There are occasions when I need a conversation to be private with just one person. What’s the polite approach to make this occur in a world of speakerphones? — CONFIDENTIAL IN INDIANA
DEAR CONFIDENTIAL: The approach to handle it’s to inform the married person you prefer to to know if someone is inside earshot because you would like your conversation to be private. And if it happens again, convey sensitive information to that person only face-to-face.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also generally known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
