DEAR ABBY: My 22-year-old stepdaughter has been receiving very large Venmo payments into her checking account. I do know this because my husband, her father, can be on the account and I even have access to it. We’ve asked her several times where the cash is coming from. The primary time, she lied and said it was from dog walking. (She has a history of lying.)
She has recently began claiming that her old “boyfriend” from 4 years ago — whom she broke up with because she found tons of photos of half-naked women on his phone — was sending her money. Abby, this isn’t $20 and even $100. It’s 1000’s of dollars EVERY month. Her ex was a delivery driver. No way can he make that much after-tax money. Where do you’re thinking that she’s getting the cash? I say sex, but my husband refuses to consider it. What should I do? — SUSPICIOUS IN TEXAS
DEAR SUSPICIOUS: I, too, suspect that your stepdaughter could also be involved in something sex-related. She may very well be an escort, have found herself a sugar daddy, or be participating in a sex webcam show. She is also involved in selling illegal drugs.
Because your husband refuses to consider his daughter would do anything illicit, for the sake of your marriage, take a step back. Wait to see what transpires. His daughter is an adult and is liable for making her own decisions. Because she has trouble telling the reality, there may be nothing you may do to assist.
DEAR ABBY: I even have been married for 28 years. Last yr I used to be diagnosed with cancer. It was discovered due to a seizure I had at work. They put me in an ambulance, took me to the hospital and did a CT scan, which revealed my stage-4 cancer. Prior to this, my wife didn’t work, while I had a well-paying job. This immediately reversed for obvious reasons.
My wife was extremely attentive. She began taking me to all my appointments and spent numerous time with me within the hospital on her days off.
This was a few six-month ordeal, and long story short, after I saw my doctors last week, they announced that after 35 radiation treatments and 7 chemo treatments, they’ll now not find any visual evidence of the cancer. I used to be so thrilled I cried.
Since then, my wife has been drinking heavily and getting indignant with me nearly every night. I don’t know what’s occurring along with her or what to do.
She’s the most effective woman I’ve ever met, and I don’t need to lose her, but she’s beginning to grow to be violent. Could you give me some advice? — RECOVERING BUT CONFUSED
DEAR RECOVERING: Your wife could also be reacting to the trauma she suffered while you became unwell, which meant she needed to grow to be the first caregiver. This, nonetheless, doesn’t excuse her excessive drinking and violent episodes. Of 1 thing I’m certain: You MUST NOT allow the established order to proceed, no matter how much you like her. She ought to be evaluated by her doctor to see if something is medically incorrect along with her. And the 2 of you could get into counseling immediately, and since she will’t handle her drinking, she might have to start out rehab or join a self-help group.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
DEAR ABBY: My 22-year-old stepdaughter has been receiving very large Venmo payments into her checking account. I do know this because my husband, her father, can be on the account and I even have access to it. We’ve asked her several times where the cash is coming from. The primary time, she lied and said it was from dog walking. (She has a history of lying.)
She has recently began claiming that her old “boyfriend” from 4 years ago — whom she broke up with because she found tons of photos of half-naked women on his phone — was sending her money. Abby, this isn’t $20 and even $100. It’s 1000’s of dollars EVERY month. Her ex was a delivery driver. No way can he make that much after-tax money. Where do you’re thinking that she’s getting the cash? I say sex, but my husband refuses to consider it. What should I do? — SUSPICIOUS IN TEXAS
DEAR SUSPICIOUS: I, too, suspect that your stepdaughter could also be involved in something sex-related. She may very well be an escort, have found herself a sugar daddy, or be participating in a sex webcam show. She is also involved in selling illegal drugs.
Because your husband refuses to consider his daughter would do anything illicit, for the sake of your marriage, take a step back. Wait to see what transpires. His daughter is an adult and is liable for making her own decisions. Because she has trouble telling the reality, there may be nothing you may do to assist.
DEAR ABBY: I even have been married for 28 years. Last yr I used to be diagnosed with cancer. It was discovered due to a seizure I had at work. They put me in an ambulance, took me to the hospital and did a CT scan, which revealed my stage-4 cancer. Prior to this, my wife didn’t work, while I had a well-paying job. This immediately reversed for obvious reasons.
My wife was extremely attentive. She began taking me to all my appointments and spent numerous time with me within the hospital on her days off.
This was a few six-month ordeal, and long story short, after I saw my doctors last week, they announced that after 35 radiation treatments and 7 chemo treatments, they’ll now not find any visual evidence of the cancer. I used to be so thrilled I cried.
Since then, my wife has been drinking heavily and getting indignant with me nearly every night. I don’t know what’s occurring along with her or what to do.
She’s the most effective woman I’ve ever met, and I don’t need to lose her, but she’s beginning to grow to be violent. Could you give me some advice? — RECOVERING BUT CONFUSED
DEAR RECOVERING: Your wife could also be reacting to the trauma she suffered while you became unwell, which meant she needed to grow to be the first caregiver. This, nonetheless, doesn’t excuse her excessive drinking and violent episodes. Of 1 thing I’m certain: You MUST NOT allow the established order to proceed, no matter how much you like her. She ought to be evaluated by her doctor to see if something is medically incorrect along with her. And the 2 of you could get into counseling immediately, and since she will’t handle her drinking, she might have to start out rehab or join a self-help group.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
