A lusty widow is launching an app for other bereaved spouses craving no strings attached sex.
Nicky Wake, 51, said 1000’s of widows and widowers are ready to hitch WidowsFire, which she conceived following the death of her husband, Andy, 57, in 2020.
” ‘Widow’s fire’ is a term commonly used throughout the widower’s community to explain the extreme, uncontrollable, or all-consuming desire for sex following the bereavement of a partner,” the British entrepreneur explained of her app’s name while chatting with SWNS.
“I shared my bed with my husband for 20 years, after which hastily he’s not there,” she continued. “If you might have a healthy sex life, that’s going to be a gaping void. All of us need and crave affection, cuddles and stolen kisses.”
WidowsFire is ready to go live in June, with members required to supply their spouse’s death certificate to prove they’re eligible to be on the app.
Meanwhile, Wake has also created a separate app named Chapter 2, designed for widows and widowers who’re ready for serious romance once more.
Speaking with SWNS in January, Wake explained that the concept for the apps got here after she finally summoned the courage to begin dating again.
“I met Andy online [back in 2002], but modern online dating had modified hugely,” she recalled. “Back within the day there have been no d–k pictures or ghosting. Modern-day dating is just like the wild West, and as a widow, I used to be extremely vulnerable and a bit bit broken.”
She added: “When I am going to widow meet-ups the conversation often turns to, ‘Have you ever began dating again?’… and I assumed there was an idea here. I checked, and there wasn’t an app for widows, there was nothing authentic and real.”
Wake said the 2 apps offer options for widows and widowers: one for individuals who are ready to begin seriously dating again, and the opposite for individuals who simply miss physical touch and intimacy.
Wake met her late hubby on DatingDirect.com, and the pair clicked immediately. They married in Jamaica in 2004 and welcomed a son, Finn, in 2007.
“We were living an idyllic glad life,” the widow recalled. “He was an exquisite stay-at-home dad and did all the college walks and all of the cooking.”
In July 2017, nevertheless, their glad lives were turned the wrong way up when Andy had a heart attack.
The couple felt they’d a “lucky escape” after he survived the ordeal, but just 4 days later, he suffered a second heart attack, which caused a “catastrophic” brain injury resulting from oxygen starvation.
“He couldn’t walk, he didn’t know who I used to be, and he didn’t know where he was,” Wake recounted, saying Andy needed to be placed in a nursing home for round the clock care.
“Fairly often he didn’t have a clue who I used to be once I came over, which is utterly heartbreaking,” she added.
Andy contracted COVID-19 shortly after the onset of the pandemic and passed away at 57.
After starting the scary means of dating again, Wake said she realized how much she had in common with widowers.
“We didn’t select this,” she said. “We didn’t leave our partner, now we have been left in this example, not out of our selecting which makes it doubly hard.”
Wake admitted it’s the “weirdest thing on the earth” to have a latest sexual relationship after the lack of a long-term partner, noting: “Kissing someone latest after 20 years with someone who knows you so intimately is weird. In a long-term relationship, you don’t have to overthink that stuff, but in a latest relationship, it might be daunting.”
The one mom said she’s been overwhelmed by the positive response to her ventures, claiming it’s given her something to live for.
“I feel if I will help some people find some joy, that helps me make sense of my loss,” she stated. “It has given me a reason to rise up within the morning and a reason to be.”
