DEAR ABBY: My wife of 47 years passed away 16 months ago after living with a disability for a few years. I took care of her until the tip and loved her with all my heart. Nine months after her passing, I became involved with one other woman my age.
I even have two sons, 43 and 46. My younger son and my contemporaries are pleased that I even have found someone to share my life with. Being alone was difficult for me. Nonetheless, my older son, who has a wife and children, is not any longer talking to me and flipped out at a public event when I discussed my girlfriend’s name. He seems to think I needs to be alone the remainder of my life.
I sent him a text after his outrageous behavior, saying that I’d all the time love him, but until he accepts the incontrovertible fact that I even have a latest lady in my life, I now not consider him my son. Possibly I overreacted. I haven’t heard from him or seen my grandkids in two months.
I do know of other widowers who’ve had the identical problem. I find it hard to imagine our children could be so inconsiderate. I realize many individuals who lose the love of their lifetime aren’t fascinated with finding one other, but I are not looking for to spend the remainder of my life alone. Am I unsuitable? Should I apologize to my son? — GLAD I FOUND SOMEONE
DEAR GLAD: You will have been too harsh if you said what you probably did to your son, but he was far out of line when he caused a scene on the mention of your girlfriend. You really liked and cared for his mother so long as she was on this earth. You were an important husband and partner, and also you don’t owe anyone an apology for wanting to live your life to the fullest. Please have a good time it with those that are mature enough to know this.
DEAR ABBY: I even have been friendly with “Blair” for 20 years. During this time, I’ve taken her to doctors’ appointments and made dinner for her and her family after her mother and stepfather died. After I went on vacation with my daughter, Blair said she’d love to come back along but didn’t have the cash, so I paid for her. (She never attempted to pay me back.) On one other occasion, Blair insisted on coming to my home together with her adult kids to make use of my pool, regardless that I asked her to not because my son was home with pneumonia.
When my mom died a couple of months ago, I called Blair after the out-of-state funeral. She promised to call me back but didn’t call for 2 months. After I told her I used to be disenchanted in her, she responded that she feels bad. But she has done things like this so over and over that I feel used. I now not wish to be friends together with her, but she keeps calling me and I don’t know what to do. Any advice for a one-sided friendship I can’t appear to end? — ENOUGH ALREADY IN ILLINOIS
DEAR ENOUGH: Take a page out of Blair’s playbook. When she calls or texts, take a protracted time to reply. When she desires to get together, be too busy. If she asks you if there may be a reason for the change in your behavior, tell her the reality just as you told it to me.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also generally known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
DEAR ABBY: My wife of 47 years passed away 16 months ago after living with a disability for a few years. I took care of her until the tip and loved her with all my heart. Nine months after her passing, I became involved with one other woman my age.
I even have two sons, 43 and 46. My younger son and my contemporaries are pleased that I even have found someone to share my life with. Being alone was difficult for me. Nonetheless, my older son, who has a wife and children, is not any longer talking to me and flipped out at a public event when I discussed my girlfriend’s name. He seems to think I needs to be alone the remainder of my life.
I sent him a text after his outrageous behavior, saying that I’d all the time love him, but until he accepts the incontrovertible fact that I even have a latest lady in my life, I now not consider him my son. Possibly I overreacted. I haven’t heard from him or seen my grandkids in two months.
I do know of other widowers who’ve had the identical problem. I find it hard to imagine our children could be so inconsiderate. I realize many individuals who lose the love of their lifetime aren’t fascinated with finding one other, but I are not looking for to spend the remainder of my life alone. Am I unsuitable? Should I apologize to my son? — GLAD I FOUND SOMEONE
DEAR GLAD: You will have been too harsh if you said what you probably did to your son, but he was far out of line when he caused a scene on the mention of your girlfriend. You really liked and cared for his mother so long as she was on this earth. You were an important husband and partner, and also you don’t owe anyone an apology for wanting to live your life to the fullest. Please have a good time it with those that are mature enough to know this.
DEAR ABBY: I even have been friendly with “Blair” for 20 years. During this time, I’ve taken her to doctors’ appointments and made dinner for her and her family after her mother and stepfather died. After I went on vacation with my daughter, Blair said she’d love to come back along but didn’t have the cash, so I paid for her. (She never attempted to pay me back.) On one other occasion, Blair insisted on coming to my home together with her adult kids to make use of my pool, regardless that I asked her to not because my son was home with pneumonia.
When my mom died a couple of months ago, I called Blair after the out-of-state funeral. She promised to call me back but didn’t call for 2 months. After I told her I used to be disenchanted in her, she responded that she feels bad. But she has done things like this so over and over that I feel used. I now not wish to be friends together with her, but she keeps calling me and I don’t know what to do. Any advice for a one-sided friendship I can’t appear to end? — ENOUGH ALREADY IN ILLINOIS
DEAR ENOUGH: Take a page out of Blair’s playbook. When she calls or texts, take a protracted time to reply. When she desires to get together, be too busy. If she asks you if there may be a reason for the change in your behavior, tell her the reality just as you told it to me.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also generally known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
